I just saw this list today and I thought it would be good to share. These twenty-five things are not the final word on what a father should teach his son. If there are others I’ve missed, please reply and add them to the list.
Also, if you as father (like myself) not have done all of these things with your son or sons….this will be a good guideline to keep in mind and some things to try with your son or sons in the future. This list is not an indictment on fatherhood but an encouragement for fathers. And sometimes men….we do need encouragement as well.
Here’s the list:
1) Speak in public—there’s power in the spoken word
2) Read good books-leaders are readers (Both fiction and non-fiction. We have to stop this belief that reading fiction is only for women. Sorry, that’s not true.)
3) Play an instrument-especially because of this discipline required
4) Play individual, two-person and team sports
5) Build a fire
6) Camp out-pitch the tent, cook stuff over the fire, the whole thing
7) Carve a turkey
8) Light a grill
9) Jump start a car
10) Tie a knot-such as a bowline, square knot, taut-line, and figure eight among others
11) Use basic tools—hammer, saw, wrench, screwdriver
12) Paint a room-trim and all
13) Handle a gun and a knife—for safety, protection, sport, and hunting
14) Skin an animal
15) Be a gentleman–open doors, stand when a woman approaches at dinner, etc. (Don’t let political correctness stop us from doing this. Chivalry is still okay in the 21st century.)
16) Grow stuff–and not just a Chia pet
17) Iron a shirt–and do laundry and other work around the house in a manly way
18) Manage money–keep a balanced checkbook, show generosity, and learn basic saving and investing (consistent giving to your church or favorite charity)
19) Shake a hand–strong shake and look’em in the eye
20) Give a man hug—skip the side hug, and go arms spread eagle with bold back slaps (I know most men are still uncomfortable with this one)
21) Keep vows (our word is still important)
22) Dress like a gentleman–coordinate pants, shirts, jackets, ties, belts, socks, etc…appropriately for the occasion
23) Tip-for example at least 15% at a restaurant, $1 for a checked coat, $1 per bag for curbside check in at airport, etc.
24) Serve others—-shovel walks, help with heavy loads, etc.
25) Handle loss—sports and games in preparation for loss in work and relationships (This is a big one for our sons)
There is the list. Thanks to Randy Stinson and Dan Dumas for coming up with it.