Wisdom From Kammbia 3.4: Why I Didn’t Like The Prodigal Son Parable…But Now Do

by | Sep 26, 2012 | Wisdom From Kammbia Column | 2 comments

11 And he said, “There was a man who had two sons. 12 And the younger of them said to his father, ‘Father, give me the share of property that is coming to me.’ And he divided his property between them. 13 Not many days later, the younger son gathered all he had and took a journey into a far country, and there he squandered his property in reckless living. 14 And when he had spent everything, a severe famine arose in that country, and he began to be in need. 15 So he went and hired himself out to[a] one of the citizens of that country, who sent him into his fields to feed pigs. 16 And he was longing to be fed with the pods that the pigs ate, and no one gave him anything.

17 “But when he came to himself, he said, ‘How many of my father’s hired servants have more than enough bread, but I perish here with hunger! 18 I will arise and go to my father, and I will say to him, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. 19 I am no longer worthy to be called your son. Treat me as one of your hired servants.”’ 20 And he arose and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him. 21 And the son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’[b] 22 But the father said to his servants,[c] ‘Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. 23 And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. 24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.’ And they began to celebrate.

25 “Now his older son was in the field, and as he came and drew near to the house, he heard music and dancing. 26 And he called one of the servants and asked what these things meant. 27 And he said to him, ‘Your brother has come, and your father has killed the fattened calf, because he has received him back safe and sound.’ 28 But he was angry and refused to go in. His father came out and entreated him, 29 but he answered his father, ‘Look, these many years I have served you, and I never disobeyed your command, yet you never gave me a young goat, that I might celebrate with my friends. 30 But when this son of yours came, who has devoured your property with prostitutes, you killed the fattened calf for him!’ 31 And he said to him, ‘Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. 32 It was fitting to celebrate and be glad, for this your brother was dead, and is alive; he was lost, and is found.’

The Parable of The Prodigal Son is probably the most popular, most studied, and most influential of all of Jesus’ parables. But, I have to admit I did not like this parable for most of my Christian life until now.

Moreover, I will have to admit that I do have this aversion to things becoming extremely popular in our culture and my maverick streak comes out and makes me run in the opposite direction in order to not follow the crowd.  Okay there…..therapy session and confession are now over!

I’ve realized that I understood the Parable of The Prodigal Son completely wrong for all my years as a Christian. However, I have noticed some interesting things about this parable that I didn’t recognize before.

In Verse Twelve, the younger son asks his father for his share of the inheritance and the father gives it to him without question. Then, the younger son leaves immediately in order to sow his wild oats.

Let’s add a little context here: In Judaism, the inheritance from a father is usually given to the older brother not the younger brother. (We can see this issue played out with Jacob and Esau from Genesis 25:29-30 & Genesis 27 in the Old Testament. Jacob stole Esau’s birthright and was blessed first by his father, Isaac, even though he was the younger son.)

Because of the younger son’s request, he has shamed and dishonored his father and the younger son could have been banished from the village forever because his rebellious act.

The father in the parable represents God and the fact he would allow himself to be shamed and even dishonored by his offspring reveals that God will honor their choice to either choose or reject him. The fact that God wants to be chosen by us even if we reject him and is willing to risk embarrassment has opened my eyes to how loving God truly is.

Furthermore, Verse Twelve divulges that the Father evenly divided his inheritance between his sons and himself. However in Verse Twenty-Nine, the older son complained to his father that he had served him faithfully the entire time and never received even a fatten calf so that he could celebrate with his friends.

Well, that’s not exactly true. The oldest son got his share of the inheritance when his father divided it for his younger son.  The younger son broke that tradition and the father had to make sure the older son would get his portion as well.

The issue for the older son was that he felt the younger son got rewarded for his bad behavior and the father forgave him instantly without even an admonishment. When I have read this parable over the years, I could always identify with the older son and this one of the main reasons I didn’t like the parable.

We don’t like to think that someone is getting away with wrong behavior.  The husband that divorces his wife in order to a marry younger woman when he becomes successful, the CEO whom embezzles money from the company and gets a severance package in order to get them to leave, the murderer in court receiving a non-guilty verdict, or even a referee that makes the wrong call at the end of a game costing the team a victory.  All of these examples are things that seem unfair and should not be rewarded. But, the father in the parable is letting bad behavior off the hook.

Well in Verse Twenty and Twenty-One, the father felt compassion and ran towards the younger son as soon as he saw him returning home. Also, the father let the younger son confess how he sinned against him and wants to repent.

Most commentaries have written that the father cuts off the younger son from saying the rest of his prepared speech. Actually, I disagree with that analysis.  I believe that the Father heard everything he wanted from the younger son.  Because of the son’s confession of his sinful behavior, the Father was ready to welcome him home with open arms.

God is always ready to welcome us to back him. But, there has to be an acknowledgement of sinful behavior and a willingness to repent. Uh-oh….I just mentioned two of the bad words of our modern culture: sin and repentance. I know I have probably lost some of my non-believing readers at this point and believe it or not I have lost some believing readers as well.

I have to acknowledge the “r-word” and the “s-word” in my walk with Christ.  It is unavoidable for me, no matter if the culture refuses to mention them or not. And this was the other main reason I didn’t like this parable because the younger son had humility and courage to face his wrongdoing head on and return to the one whom he wronged. I wish I could have done that a lot more in my life.

In closing, God discloses himself in the Parable of The Prodigal Son to be far greater than I’ve previously imagined him to be.  The parable declares his understanding of human nature is beyond reproach and that fact he is willing to risk it all in order to have a connection with humanity is truly humbling.


  1. jennymiller62

    Good post. I’ve never thought of the prodigal son from this point of view because I never identified with the older brother. It’s nice to hear a different perspective on it. Also, I’d like to say I like the new look of your blog. It’s simple yet pretty at the same time.

    • kammbia1

      Thanks Jenny! I was hoping people would catch that viewpoint from the older son. I did look at from that perspective most of the time. Also, I think I was being a rebellious as well. I didn’t want to like something that everybody liked. LOL!!



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